What I Learned This Week About Wellbeing, Connection, Purpose, Emotions, and Giving Back
Are you craving more balance, more meaningful connections, and a greater sense of emotional wellbeing in your everyday life?
Recently, I attended a conference packed with ideas about navigating life, relationships and self-care in a way that truly supports us—especially for those of us who often put others first.
Here’s what I learned, and how it might help you find more ease, clarity, and connection in your own life.
Wellbeing: Notice Instead of Avoid
How often do you push through stress, ignore exhaustion, or put off self-care because there’s too much to do?
One simple yet profound idea shared at the conference was this: Notice instead of avoid.
We’re taught to suppress discomfort and to keep going no matter what. But real wellbeing comes from paying attention—to our emotions, our energy, our stress levels—before they become overwhelming.
Try this: Before scrolling, reaching for caffeine, or brushing off your feelings, pause and ask yourself:
What am I feeling right now?
What is my body telling me?
What do I need at this moment?
Sometimes, noticing is the most powerful self-care practice of all.
Connection: The Conversation Is the Relationship
We all want deeper, more fulfilling relationships—with partners, friends, colleagues, or even ourselves.
But as Susan Scott says, “The conversation is the relationship.”
If we’re avoiding tough conversations, our relationships suffer.
If we silence ourselves to protect others’ feelings, we feel unseen.
If we struggle to express what we need, we stay disconnected.
At the conference, I heard from host Hannah Wilson about the idea of talk tokens—a concept where everyone in a meeting gets a set number of one-minute tokens to ensure equal voice time. It made me think:
What if we gave ourselves permission to take up more space in conversations? What if we listened more deeply, but also spoke with more confidence?
Try this: In your next conversation, ask yourself:
Am I truly listening?
Am I expressing what I really feel?
How would this conversation change if I gave myself full permission to show up as I am?
We co-create every relationship through our conversations. What kind of relationships do you want to create?
Purpose: Your Inner Mentor vs. Your Inner Critic
If you struggle with self-doubt, overthinking, or imposter syndrome, you’re not alone.
At the conference, Sadia Ghazanfar explored the difference between two voices inside us:
Your Inner Critic → Harsh, repetitive, and rooted in fear (“I’m not good enough. I’m failing. I should be better.”)
Your Inner Mentor → Wise, grounded, and connected to your values (“You are learning. You are enough. Keep going.”)
One insight that stood out: Your inner mentor doesn’t just think—it feels. It speaks in symbols, emotions, and quiet wisdom.
Try this: If you’re feeling lost or doubting yourself, close your eyes and picture yourself 20 years from now. What advice would that future version of you give you?
Maybe she’d tell you:
You already know more than you think.
You don’t have to have all the answers.
You are stronger than you realize.
What would shift if you started listening to her more than your inner critic?
Emotions: Owning How We Feel
One of the most powerful discussions at my table and throughout the day was about emotional validation.
Many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to believe:
Some emotions are acceptable, others are not.
We should “keep it together” for everyone else.
We must prioritize other people’s feelings over our own.
But your emotions deserve space.
Have you ever been shamed for your feelings?
Do you find yourself apologizing for emotions instead of expressing them?
Have you been taught how to regulate emotions—or just to hide them?
Hannah Wilson shared this powerful phrase from Susan Scott: “Take responsibility for your emotional wake.”
Just like a boat leaves ripples in the water, our emotions create ripples in the lives of those around us. This doesn’t mean suppressing feelings—it means owning them, processing them, and regulating them in ways that feel supportive.
Try this: The next time you feel overwhelmed, ask yourself:
Am I reacting from a place of emotional regulation?
How can I express this in a way that feels both true and safe?
What would happen if I validated my own emotions, instead of waiting for others to do it?
Owning your emotions is one of the most powerful forms of self-trust.
Giving Back: The Power of Small Actions
Women, especially, carry a huge emotional load—not just for our own wellbeing, but for our families, our workplaces, and our communities.
But one of the biggest shifts we can make is redefining impact.
Giving back doesn’t have to be big. Small actions matter.
Being an ally.
Mentoring someone who needs guidance.
Checking in on a friend.
Speaking up when something doesn’t feel right.
Renée Jacobs of The Belonging Network left us with this thought:
"What change do you want to make in yourself, in your relationships, and in the world?"
Try this: Instead of waiting for a big moment to make a difference, ask: What’s one small way I can create impact today?
Small actions create big ripples.
What This Means for You
What I took away from this conference is something I already believe deeply:
Wellbeing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about reconnecting with yourself.
So, a few questions for you:
What’s one thing you need to notice instead of avoid?
How can you create more meaningful — even courageous — conversations this week?
What would your inner mentor say to you right now?
Where do you feel ownership over your emotions—and where don’t you?
What’s one small way you can make an impact today?
If you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or disconnected, these small shifts can help.
Here’s to small ripples, brave conversations, and the courage to feel what we feel.
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